Tuesday, November 7, 2017

FOR YOU, FOR HER, FOR ME, FOR US…


This is an original statement published in this page. I’m sharing this in our blog because besides I know the women affected, we must eradicate this kind of shitty attitude out of our ‘scene’, this kind of individuals that spread a message in their music and in their daily lives they just continue reproducing sexist/racist acts, there’s no space for that. Today this is about some guys from a Hardcore band from Spain, and the point of this is that it shouldn't be a next time.

“It is time that these practices do not go unpunished and stop being normalized. It is time to question and point out these actions. It is time that these types of individuals are afraid to do these things. We believe that this is a first step. We don’t expect that this statement will make these specific individuals change, because they have sexism too internalized. Our goal is that there will not be a next time and that we can expose the sexist acts that women deal with every day. WE ARE SICK AND TIRED!”

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FOR YOU, FOR HER, FOR ME, FOR US…


They want to shut us up, and we won't let them. We are writing from a place of empowerment. Our decision to name and expose sexist and racist acts is because we are sick and tired. We don’t want to be part of impunity and injustice.

A couple of months ago, once again, we discovered that we were victims of patriarchy, and this time it came from a group of men from southern Spain; guys who are musicians and who play in bands and participate in a supposedly political scene. Their bands identify and express themselves as feminist allies; with messages of gender equity and antifascism.

We are calling them out because of misogynist, sexist and racist things they’ve said and done over messaging applications such as Instagram, Facebook and WhatsApp. Several of us were affected, exposed, and violated. The above-mentioned men shared photos of women (with whom they had some level of intimacy or relationship). NONE OF THESE PHOTOS HAD BEEN ONLINE, AND SOME OF THESE PHOTOS WERE TAKEN WITHOUT THE PERSON’S KNOWLEDGE. We firmly believe that, even if they were, it’s is not a sufficient reason for a man to feel entitled to share this information with others.

The online abuse of sharing photos of naked women, in underwear, or in any sexual position has become a sexist game that positions the virility and power of men over women’s bodies, as if they were collectibles or trophies. It’s sad to know that this happens in certain scenes such as punk or hardcore, where most bands support some political philosophy of gender equality, among other movements. Things like this should not go unpunished. The same ideas lie behind them that destroy countless women every day. They contribute to an endless number of micro-aggressive / micro-sexist actions that are naturalized in our daily life, part of the same patriarchal system that causes thousands of femicides.

Our vulnerability and impotence crossed borders. The photographs were not only shared among these Spaniards, one was also shared by a guy who’s a chef in Tijuana, Mexico. He shared one of our photographs without her consent, causing anger, disappointment and frustration.

The point of writing this is not just to write for the sake of writing or talk for the sake of talking, as the 'machos' would say. We have a lot of the conversations and photos that this group of men has shared. We are sure that they are not conscious in the least of the emotional damage they have caused to the women affected, who are fully aware of the situation and out of respect for them we will not publish the evidence of what we mention here. And we believe that it is not necessary to do so. We believe that this callout in and of itself exposes the seriousness of the situation, enough that we’re not worried about who will believe us or not.

But that is not all. In addition to this great wave of misogyny, they’ve added racism and discrimination directed at Latin American women. On several occasions we find phrases like: "the DNA did not mix well", "they are all dwarfed and deformed, with big heads”. Weren’t they supposed to be feminist allies, carrying the banner of equality and liberation? Where are all those ideals? Apparently they were only for show, to get social status in a supposedly political and radical scene. “That’s just what men do", as they say, doesn’t make sense to us in this situation. In fact, these actions don’t make sense anywhere and we are not going to normalize them. We know that there are numerous similar cases within our scenes, just like what we’ve experienced. We are supposed to feel safe being a part of a "scene" that believes in and promotes equity. But unfortunately that’s not the case. This situation has made it clear to us that the opposite is true.

Given the great conflict that this wave of sexism and racism caused us, we decided to inform all the women affected, and we respect the decisions of each of them. In our case, we completely reject silence and we want these men to take responsibility for their misogynistic actions. They will have to face the consequences online and in their daily lives that this callout entails themselves. NOT US! Hopefully they understand that the integrity of the women affected is worth much more than the organization of a music festival or the image of a punk band. Likewise, everyone will decide where and how to position themselves.

This callout is also meant to alert the girls who are close to these or other men who do these kind of acts. We want to let you know that your privacy and intimacy are at constant risk. Just do not fully trust the ones who say they are allies. There are many of us who have suffered some abuse by men who appear to understand these issues.

We know that this statement will cause reactions and comments that have to do with the personal relationships of the people involved. Comments regarding how the information was obtained. But we do not care: GO AND SAY WHAT YOU WANT, WE ARE NOT AFRAID, WE HAVE NOTHING TO HIDE! This is something much bigger for us than just personal issues.
We know that this callout will provoke a reaction against us. We will be called and labeled as: liars, crazy, bitches, whores, witches, dramatic, exaggerators, etc. WE DO NOT CARE! It’s up to each of you: are you with us or against us? And we want to make it clear that every violent message in response to this statement, whether private or public, will also be shared publicly.

It is time that these practices do not go unpunished and stop being normalized. It is time to question and point out these actions. It is time that these types of individuals are afraid to do these things. We believe that this is a first step. We don’t expect that this statement will make these specific individuals change, because they have sexism too internalized. Our goal is that there will not be a next time and that we can expose the sexist acts that women deal with every day. WE ARE SICK AND TIRED!

TO ALL WOMEN WHO ARE IN SIMILAR SITUATIONS , EITHER WITH THESE MEN OR WITH OTHERS, KNOW THAT YOU ARE NOT ALONE AND THAT IF YOU DECIDE TO TALK, YOU HAVE OUR COMPLETE SUPPORT. WE ARE A POWERFUL NETWORK. FROM TODAY, THERE IS NO LOOKING BACK. WE HAVE TO TRUST IN OURSELVES!

We’re talking specifically about four men who are from the hardcore/ punk scene in Andalusia: the first is the vocalist of Decadence and drummer of Minority of One. The second is the drummer of Decadence. Both of them are also ‘hosts’ of Jäggermeister Commando. The third is a tattoo artist and lives in London. The fourth was a vocalist of Pacto de Sangre, who also lives in London.

SISTERHOOD LOVE

“My silences had not protected me. Your silence will not protect you.”
Audre Lorde

5 comments :

  1. Wow, thank you so much for letting know these news, i'm from Spain and in the district events of my neighborhood i saw these band, ironically a woman stood up in the stage and did a speech against sexism.
    It's very sad to see these things because Spain has a very long history of punk bands against all kinds of discrimination.
    Thank you again for commenting these kind of things.

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  2. i write from Spain, i want to know if its true that the girls who denounced the abuse are both the 2 ex-girlfriends of the accused

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  3. ... i deeply advise that we should respect the fact that the women mentioned stay anonymous, to protect them from possible further violence by so-called "scene-members" ...

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  4. I just want to say that if I decided to share this in our blog is because I know the situation closely and I can say that this is not a matter of "ex-girlfriends" ... we must clarify that the former partners of the band members have supported this publication, but they are not direct victims. They have been exposed in all this and having a hard time. The affected decide to keep this anonymous because it is sensitive information and one of the most important things is the protection of the victims' integrity and like "Skar" have said stay anonymous means to protect them because they feel vulnerable.

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